From Busy to Bliss
This week I want to talk about something super simple and subtle and so nuanced that I promise, it's undermining your life in some way: Being busy - I promise there is some way in your life where your busyness is undermining you. Whether that's a chaotic schedule at work, at home, in your personal life, or all of the above. We're going to break this down so that you can reconstruct your everyday life and create bliss in every moment. Shifting from a busy lifestyle and changing it to bliss.
Being Busy vs Being Busy As a Synonym For Bliss
Here's the thing in our society, we are so conditioned to be busy. From the time we are young, especially right now in the evolution of our life on the planet, we're busier than ever. Most toddlers have busy schedules. I’m not saying this is wrong I just want to bring your awareness to it. Our teenagers have hectic, chaotic schedules. Not to mention as adults, we are busy all the time.
It's almost as if busyness has become a synonym for being important and for winning in life. Like that's how we show our value and our worth is how busy we are.
If you pay attention and listen to people you will hear over and over again, “Oh, I'm so busy. I don't have time to do this!”
In one way or another, we're all guilty of this.
And again, I’m not saying that this is entirely wrong. BUT it is if there is a detriment to our health our lives, our presence, to our peace. What we are creating by operating as if busyness has something to do with our inherent value, with our inherent worth.
So Why Do We Do That?
It's what we do as human beings. How we raise our children. We want them to have all the best options and opportunities. And so, we start them off younger and younger, for example getting them ready for college. I met an eight-year-old a few years ago who was taking college preparatory classes!
While that's a personal choice, the inherent intention is to make our kids ready, to make ourselves ready for whatever comes next, and to give them, all the opportunities that we can.
And there is an impact of that and that's to condition them as human beings to be busy, to create busyness in our lives, in our schedule, and in our ways of being in the world.
Busyness is a part of who we are. And that impacts our bodies. It impacts our stress levels. It impacts our central nervous system. We are not meant to be in this fight-or-flight mode all the time.
So how do we get out of this? And what do we get by getting out of this busy mindset, this conditioned way of being?
The Solution
First, I want to enroll you in the possibility of everything getting done in its time, everything flowing effortlessly. Like you are in a river of life and time flows effortlessly in the way that it's meant to flow, and feel at peace and knowing that everything is getting checked off the list and efficiently. Even more efficiently than you could dream.
What would that feel like? Probably like magic. That's often the way that it feels for me and some of my clients and, and folks in my, in my environment.
So how, how do you do that? While it sounds really simple, I know that this is not easy. It involves awareness and intention and commitment. And I know we've been talking about that.
I want to emphasize here, finding where in your life you are so busy. That could be even in your relaxing time. Your relaxing time could be busy. It could be, “I've got to go relax and read this book and then, do some journaling” or “I've got to hurry up and get some meditation done”.
It could be anywhere in your life. The challenge is for you to find this place. And if it doesn't come to you immediately, stop and reflect a little bit further and go a little bit deeper and start to challenge yourself with the question, “Where am I busy?”
And what am I trying to compensate for? Where does this come from? What does this mean? What I'm challenging you here is to coach yourself through this and then take steps. Take steps to just breathe and allow things to flow.
What does this mean practically?
It can mean something different for everyone. For me, sometimes it does mean slowing down and taking a few deep breaths, just a few. And just getting connected with my body, feeling my inner body. Feeling the blood flowing through my hands or my feet and just notice. If I'm sitting outside, I can feel the wind blowing, and then staying there. Not immediately jumping to the next thing or whatever I need to accomplish.
Sometimes it's a visualization or it could be listening to classical music or something that relaxes you. It could be being with people that bring you to a state of bliss.
Your Challenge
What I want you to practice this week is taking whatever you feel so busy about and looking at it not from a place of judgment, but from a place of objectivity and respect for yourself.
It's gotten you to this point and what got you to this point isn't going to get you to the next point.
That's what I heard someone say today. And so that's interesting to play with. So try something different.
Take this busyness and look, at a deeper level and invite bliss in. Invite this deep level of peace and consciousness through and watch. Notice how things unfold naturally when you get into the flow, the natural and organic flow of life.
For me, this is where co-creativity happens with other people, and with the universe. That's where things happen that I couldn't have otherwise imagined.
So I'm challenging you to do this:
Sit with your busyness. Look a little bit deeper.
Write it down.
Let it go if you want. Flush it down the toilet and sit with yourself.
Ask yourself where your busyness is coming from.
Then go ahead and invite bliss into your life.
Just be with it. Be with yourself.
I know you're going to love this feeling and what comes from it.