Parenting Blocks: How to Avoid Giving Your Kid Your Blocks

This week I'm really excited to talk about one of my favorite topics: Parenting. And more specifically. How your blocks are blocking your children from achieving their goals. You may know that 80% of the world will be a parent by age 50. Whether you are in that 80% or not, you have parents or have been in a parenting role in some way shape, or form. So you understand that we all want the absolute best for our kids. While I am using the word “kids”, you can replace that word with the word parent or employee – it works just the same. 

What you may not know is the blocks that are inside of you could be what is holding your kid back. We are going to talk about this in this blog post and really get clear about how to remove these blocks so your kids can achieve their dreams.

What are Parenting Blocks?

Do you know how you see something out in the world that you don’t like, it frustrates you or you have anxiety about it? We might even say you fear it. Your parenting block could be about your fear of your actual parenting. You might think, I'm afraid to mess them up. I'm afraid I'm not going to give them what they need. I'm afraid that they're not going to succeed. 

Or it could even be, I'm just afraid they're going to screw up. They're not going to be a contributing member of society. They're going to sit on the couch and play video games forever. And that this is somehow your fault, you didn’t do your job. 

Or, you think it’s all inside of them. It’s their fault and push that out onto them.

Here's the thing. This fear inside of you, this anxiety, this projection, is a block. And this block is keeping you from seeing the truth. The deepest truth:

Your child is here on this planet to have a unique experience of their own, just like you are. And this experience is all theirs. Our work is to let go and look inside ourselves.

How can we remove Parenting Blocks?

Here is what you need to do: pivot toward your own block. Remove it. And you will see miraculous things happen.

I had a client who was afraid of what her kid was going to do when she was gone. Her fear kept her over-involved with her child and doing things for her she could be doing herself. Luckily, she got connected to her fears. We worked on her owning her inner leader and seeing the truth: she is here to do her work and just be present with her kid. And that is really all she truly wants and that’s all her kid needs. 

Your Practice

We are going to do something a little bit different in this blog post, we are going to do a bit of soul work.

I want you to put your device on focus for the next 3 minutes and just pause. Get out a piece of paper and pencil and get comfortable.

Now, you're gonna presence what it is that you most fear with your child. I want you to write it down. 

Next, because we are going deep, let's amp it up a little bit. Who do you really, really fear? What's the worst thing that could happen that you fear with your kid now or in the future? Good. 

Remember, putting this down on paper is a step in letting go…

So now I want you to put your pen and paper aside, and I want you to stand up in the room.

Put one hand on your heart and one hand on your belly and take a deep breath. Allow your eyes to float closed. 

And I want you to begin by focusing on your breath. This is just going to take a moment. You're going to get connected to your inner leader, your leader within. 

On your next inhale. Just go ahead and imagine. That you're inhaling the light. Could be the light from the sun and you feel the warmth on your skin. It could be universal light that you're drawing into your body. 

And as you exhale, breathe that light down into every cell of your body. Good. On your next inhale again, breathe in that universal light. Exhale into your whole, entire body. And just feel it fill every single cell, every particle, every photon. Imagine it in your heart. Good.

Now I want to ask you a question…

How does this feel? 

You may feel peaceful, light, more calm. If not, try this exercise again. If you are feeling that connection to your inner leader, I ask you this: Where is the fear now? Where did it go? 

It’s gone because it is an illusion, it is rooted in your mental block. 

When you connect to this inner leader within you, what gets created from here is something wonderful, a connection to yourself, your child, your employee, and your parents. And, you will begin to see when you practice this, fully feeling it, you practice giving space to the fear and it starts to dissipate.  Then you notice the space it used to inhabit and then bring in the light and fill up the space the fear used to take. The anxiety, the blocks disappear from you, then from the people around you, including your child.

Sit with this and be present with it. 

I would love to hear from you so please comment below or reach out to me directly and let me know how this is landing. What blocks are shifting in you, in your child, in the people around you?